The pressures of being a twenty-something & the importance of not comparing yourself to others...

I seem to have this recurring conversation with friends and family about how I'm currently in this awkward stage of life. I'm not married, don't have kids, don't go out and sure as heck don't stay up past 11PM on weekends. I have a ton of peers who have taken the above steps (marriage & kids or single & partying) and love their lives while others seem to be forcing it because it's the popular thing to do. I think it's unfair for us to be pressured into a particular lifestyle that may not be what we want or need right now. I feel like so many of us focus on what everyone else around us is doing versus focusing on ourselves. Comparing ends up being our own worst enemy.

Society has put so much pressure on twenty-somethings to hurry up and figure it all out before 30, when in reality, life shouldn't have a timeline. It's tough to see people my age rushing into steps they aren't ready for or losing sight of their goals because they think it's what their "supposed to do". If only they could see the potential in themselves to make those dreams a reality while life happens organically. Just because you want a family, or want to be single AF, doesn't mean you can't make sh*t happen along the way or even postpone some of those things until you accomplish what you need to feel fulfilled.

I see so many people giving up on their passions because they're afraid to be different, work hard or get out of their comfort zone so instead, they follow a trend before they really know what they want out of life. This is not me saying that getting married and having a family isn't one of the greatest (if not the greatest) meanings of life, but I do think that we see so many more divorces in our generation because people haven't found themselves before finding "the one". I hope to encourage women today to be bold and different, while knowing that everything will fall into place if you put yourself first instead of comparing to others.

We all deserve to live a fulfilling life, whatever that means for you, by following the passions that fuel our happiness. Don't let the habit of comparing yourself to others or society's norms prevent you from getting there. You only have one life to live.